When silence is used to manage conflict in an intimate partnership, misunderstanding and increased emotional distance are likely. Stonewalling in relationships can also cause one or both partners to experience anxiety or depression, and may lead ultimately to separation.
Technology enables moms to multitask more easily but more is expected of modern parents. Even in households espousing gender equality, women tend to take on more of the childcare and household responsibilities, as well as the corresponding mental load. Dads can ease this burden by taking more initiative and following through.
Being on your phone instead of listening when your partner is speaking as well using phones and cameras to monitor your partner’s activities are examples of how technology enters relationships. Our phones and other devices can interfere with intimacy and also help us avoid difficult conversations.
Motherhood is often not what we understood or imagined it would be based upon our observations of our own mothers. While growing up, we often failed to see the behind the scenes work and effort that we now experience first hand.
We’re just beginning to understand how the COVID 19 pandemic has impacted intimate relationships. During the pandemic we have all learned how much we need each other. As we head into a winter of social isolation, it’s important to seek emotional support if you are in the midst of a coronanvirus divorce.
Feelings of sadness rather than joy may be dominating your days if this is your first holiday season following a divorce. Or maybe you’ve been telling yourself that you’re “over it” and the holiday blues have taken you a bit by surprise. Either way, getting through the holiday season is a milestone in your divorce recovery.
When you first separate, and you or soon-to-be Ex files for divorce, it can seem like things are moving very quickly. But it can take a year or more for your case to wind its way through the court system. Without ongoing support, you may become frustrated and start to believe “the Judge should decide.”
Therapy during divorce can provide you with a regular time and place in your busy week of to-do’s to slow it all down. A place to sift through all the advice. A place to say all the things you can’t say anywhere else. A place to quiet all the noise, hear your own inner voice and, from there, act purposefully and decisively.
