Being on your phone instead of listening when your partner is speaking as well using phones and cameras to monitor your partner’s activities are examples of how technology enters relationships. Our phones and other devices can interfere with intimacy and also help us avoid difficult conversations.
Motherhood is often not what we understood or imagined it would be based upon our observations of our own mothers. While growing up, we often failed to see the behind the scenes work and effort that we now experience first hand.
Sometimes new or expectant mothers see media coverage of tragic loss in the postpartum and become concerned about “getting” postpartum depression. It’s important to talk to your providers and learn about local community resources for postpartum women.
Valentine’s Day can cause you to reassess where you are in terms of intimate relationships. Anxiety can creep in as friends find partners. Staying true to yourself, letting go of relationships that truly aren’t working, and remaining open to all the possibilities around you can lead you to your own special person.
Family law matters that include allegations of a history of domestic violence pose difficult challenges for the court system. Usually both parents are eventually awarded parenting time. For victims, getting support to heal from their experiences in the relationship and to cope with these realities of co-parenting can be a lifeline.
Rates of divorce have been doubling in age groups above age 54. Gray divorcees, or so-called “silver splitters” or “diamond splitters,” may have spent quite a number of years together prior to the divorce. In these late life separations, emotional well-being and finances may be negatively impacted to such an extent that one or both partners never fully recover.
Sometimes following separation there is a hurdle in beginning to use the term, “The Ex,” when referring to your former husband or wife. There may be a journey towards speaking these words aloud, with support coming from colleagues, friends, family - even strangers - who have walked the path of separation before you.
Letting go of the family home is hard. The home that you and your ex made when you were together is a symbol of the hopes and dreams that you had for the marriage and your family life together – happily ever after, until death do us part. Grieving the loss of these hopes and dreams is a huge part of the emotional recovery following a separation or divorce.
Therapy during divorce can provide you with a regular time and place in your busy week of to-do’s to slow it all down. A place to sift through all the advice. A place to say all the things you can’t say anywhere else. A place to quiet all the noise, hear your own inner voice and, from there, act purposefully and decisively.
Allegations of alienation are common in high conflict divorce matters. It can be difficult to distinguish alienation and gate-keeping..The emptiness of a parent’s home when the children are with the other parent and the grief that the parent experiences while missing the children can contribute to these patterns.
