As mothers we are biologically programmed to take care of the needs of everyone in the family. But we need to make space for taking good care of ourselves too. This starts with assuring our basic needs are met everyday.
Being on your phone instead of listening when your partner is speaking as well using phones and cameras to monitor your partner’s activities are examples of how technology enters relationships. Our phones and other devices can interfere with intimacy and also help us avoid difficult conversations.
Sometimes following separation there is a hurdle in beginning to use the term, “The Ex,” when referring to your former husband or wife. There may be a journey towards speaking these words aloud, with support coming from colleagues, friends, family - even strangers - who have walked the path of separation before you.
Sometimes new or expectant mothers see media coverage of tragic loss in the postpartum and become concerned about “getting” postpartum depression. It’s important to talk to your providers and learn about local community resources for postpartum women.
Valentine’s Day can cause you to reassess where you are in terms of intimate relationships. Anxiety can creep in as friends find partners. Staying true to yourself, letting go of relationships that truly aren’t working, and remaining open to all the possibilities around you can lead you to your own special person.
Triangulation occurs whenever a third person intervenes or is drawn into a conflict between two individuals. The third person may become part of the situation unwittingly, may make a conscious choice to intervene, or may be drawn in skillfully by one of the two people who had the original disagreement.
Feelings of sadness rather than joy may be dominating your days if this is your first holiday season following a divorce. Or maybe you’ve been telling yourself that you’re “over it” and the holiday blues have taken you a bit by surprise. Either way, getting through the holiday season is a milestone in your divorce recovery.
In Parenting Coordination trained professional mediates the conversations between co-parents who have difficulty communicating or complying with existing Agreements and Court Orders. Parenting Coordinators also serve as a resource outside the court system in the event that new conflicts and issues arise.
