Many first time moms approach birth with clear expectations regarding the kind of mother they will become. The experience of mothering can shake this sense of self to the core. Focusing on self care in the early months of motherhood can help women find themselves in the role of mother.

New dads have an important role to play in supporting the new mom during the postpartum. Postpartum depression and anxiety may create conflict between new parents which is not immediately welcome or understood. Getting medical attention for both new parents can help.

Many new parents are shaken and confused by the highly emotional arguments in which they find themselves in the few moments they have together after bringing their baby home. Taking a time-limited break to focus upon sensory-focused self care, deep breathing and self-talk can help.

When we enter motherhood, we are often are conditioned to facing challenges and new experiences with classmates and co-workers. Motherhood asks us to find our own unique pathway that is best for our baby, our relationship, and ourselves.

We grow up watching our mothers and often define ourselves in relation to them. In the first days and weeks with a newborn, we may find ourselves thinking often about how we were mothered. Often we need to renegotiate our relationships with our mothers as we become mothers ourselves.

The winter months can be challenging with toddlers and preschoolers especially if you are depressed. Non-stop colds and viruses and the time change can impact daily schedules. Daily exercise in the fresh air can help pass these long winter days.

Many postpartum women experience loneliness. However, they are often hesitant to talk about this due to cultural expectations that all new mothers are always be happy. Unfortunately, unaddressed loneliness can contribute to postpartum depression.

As a society we still have a long way to go in allowing women the time and space they need to grow into their roles as mothers when they experience the detours of postpartum anxiety and depression. Perhaps one of your first lessons as a mother is allowing yourself the time you need and accepting the support that others can provide.